Leap year proposal

by **leapyearbride** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 11:22 am

Hello, new to this, need some advice/opinions.

Would you propose to your other half?

I'm with my other half for 2 years and have never been happier. This morning I noticed its a leap year this year and I got this frission of excitement through me. I want to do it. Why shouldn't I?

What do you think? Is it a good idea, bad idea?

How will I do it? Should I have something to give him? Not a ring obvs but a coin maybe?

babydust2012 · by **babydust2012** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 12:01 pm

Awe thats so sweet. Have you and your OH talked about marriage before? What I'm saying is would he say yes :-8

Alot of men don't think about marriage and babies like us women obsess about so if it hasn't come up in conversation before I would be very careful about asking him because even though you are both unbelievably happy now, marriage may not be on his agenda.

If however ye have little conversations about marraige and the future, I would totally go for it :o)ll

A friend of mine proposed her her now husband, granted they had been together about 10 years and were living together with their child but he would NEVER have asked her!!! Men and their blissful existence!!!!

Do something special for him and have something to mark the "engagement", even when DH proposed to me, I went straight out and bought him a watch and engraved it with love from mrs fishermansbride to be!!!!!

Good luck, can't wait to hear what you do :o)ll

by **leapyearbride** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 12:11 pm

Well, we have spoken about a long term future together and all that may come with it. I suppose I'm asking as I don't know whether he'll say yes!? Not because he doesn't want to be with me but because he's the man etc etc. He's a fairly open minded person.

I was all excited about it but I did a search on the topic and all I can say is GOOGLE IS EVIL. :o0

Talk of immasculating him and ripping off his manhood and stamping on it! :ooh

YoMammaSo · by **YoMammaSo** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 3:20 pm

DO IT !!!

by **Dr of love** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 4:33 pm

Only you know the personality of your bf but I personally wouldnt do it. The reality is that girls are often quicker to be ready for marriage than the average guy (not always the case but overall because we tend to daydream in a way that most guys simply dont). Also, and I dont mean this is a sexist way but its the guys perogative to ask. If tradition dictated that it was the girl then that would be fine but thats not the case. Its not that you need to keep to tradition (I'm all for breaking tradition on most stuff) but this is a very important thing and some guys have grown up with the expectation that they will have the pleasure of asking. Also, they know its their job to ask so it leaves out a lot of wondering about whether he is ready or not. The simple truth is that he would ask if he was ready because its well known that its his responsibility to do so. There are some exceptions to this rule, namely those annoying fellas who are happy to date for 10yrs and need that push but after 2 years I think its only fair to give him his chance to make that decision himself. If it was 5yrs in, my answer would be different. HOWEVER, you know your bf better than anyone and if he genuinely likes surprises and always leaves you to make the big decisions in your relationship then maybe its okay.

HippyChic · by **HippyChic** » Thu Jan 26, 2022 4:49 pm

I asked my H2B (it was a very drunken international call :-8

) and even bought him a ring! However, it was something we kept to yourselves, kinda like an in-joke between us, as he wanted to ask me back (so to speak) and buy me a ring etc etc.
In fairness, he did say that ever since he was younger he had planned how he would propose...like little girls dream of getting married I suppose. That said he was sure he'd never marry until he was with me, and in the end his big proposal idea went out the window altogether! :o0

Still though, we weren't "formally" engaged until he'd bought my ring and given it to me/asked me to marry him.
Go with your gut...or as in my case, quite a lot of jagermeister :hic

by **juleser77** » Fri Jan 27, 2022 4:18 pm

Just wondered if any women have proposed to their boyfriend, especially on a previous Feb 29?

I'm writing an article on the subject so would be great to hear from anyone - you can PM me or email [email protected]. Cheers!

weddingdiva · by **weddingdiva** » Sun Feb 05, 2022 12:38 pm

Oh I dont know about this one, just from conversations with male friends, most of them hate the idea of this. I dont know why but some of them I know went into hiding on feb 29th saying they had a football match or a work committment to go to just to avoid it even though their girlfriends had no intention of asking them. the 29th of feb puts the fear of god into a lot of men so thread carefully.

Ovulationnation · by **Ovulationnation** » Sun Feb 05, 2022 9:37 pm

I wouldn't have had the nerve and guts to do it but I wish I did. If it is an exciting idea to you then go for it. :o)ll

One thing that always got to me during our wedding planning was that he asked me to get married and then my world got upended trying to organise the wedding while he was pretty chilled out!! So I am a little jealous that you are doing it on your own timing

Wishing you the best of luck.. I would love an update from you in March. That is if he doesn't jump in and pop the question before you on Valentines day.

by **hopingforsoon** » Mon Feb 06, 2022 3:14 pm

weddingdiva wrote:Oh I dont know about this one, just from conversations with male friends, most of them hate the idea of this. I dont know why but some of them I know went into hiding on feb 29th saying they had a football match or a work committment to go to just to avoid it even though their girlfriends had no intention of asking them. the 29th of feb puts the fear of god into a lot of men so thread carefully.

When I was in a long-distance romance with my DH, he refused to come home that weekend cos I had him would up so much that I was going to propose. Now, I was joking, but even the thoughts of it scared him off :o0

me julie · by **me julie** » Wed Feb 08, 2022 4:28 pm

Just my opiion but no way would I propose and whats the rush anyway it only took us 12 years :o0

2bmrsc · by **2bmrsc** » Wed Feb 22, 2022 10:38 am

hiya leapyearbride,would love to know if you do it how you get on,,,if you are both ready for marriage and you can look at him knowing hes the"one"and if you know he feels the same,,then go for it,,,,why not?if he decides he wont be around for that day then ya know hes not ready like if you find him hiding in the wardrobe,,lol,,hope it all goes great!!best of luck either way,,,, O-O

Carriedaway · by **Carriedaway** » Thu Feb 23, 2022 9:02 am

personally no way would not do it! would not do myself out of the romantic surprise proposal. I just think it reeks of desparation from the girl

2bmrsc · by **2bmrsc** » Thu Feb 23, 2022 6:06 pm

[quote="Carriedaway "I just think it reeks of desparation from the girl[/quote] OUCH!lol dont think its desperation,think its doing what feels right,if theyre both ready why not?and anyway its tradition,,

Carriedaway · by **Carriedaway** » Fri Feb 24, 2022 11:38 am

I just think if a guy wants to marry you he will ask

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