Do you all have brilliant mother in laws?!

micls · by **micls** » Thu Mar 29, 2022 6:02 am

Yeah, I love mine(future MIL). I'm very lucky.

She's treated me like a daughter for years now (we've been together 9 years), and I can't imagine the family not being in my life.

In fact, we get on better than her and my OH do :D

originalwoowoo · by **originalwoowoo** » Thu Mar 29, 2022 12:55 pm

Love mine - cause I have nothing to do with her! :innocent:

When we were involved in their lives it was stress and we are not aware of doing anything wrong but they do not contact us or their two grandsons.
DH is accepting of the situation and the way we feel - its their loss.
I know DH thinks he has great inlaws!

by **Elizabeth Bennett** » Thu Mar 29, 2022 1:10 pm

Mine is tolerable because I don't see her too much. We have nothing in common, she is a worry wart and has very old fashioned opinions on everything. I can put up with her as she would never dream of saying anything too controversial to my face. I could never in a million years live with her.

Luka · by **Luka** » Thu Mar 29, 2022 9:14 pm

Buttonnose wrote:Oh my God Luka, you poor thing! I wouldn't be able to hack that, I'd just keep well away from her. How bloody dare she?! She sounds as sensitive as a brick, I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but you've every right to keep her at arms length!

I don't think I'd be able to hold my tongue in your situation, fair play!

Buttonnose it's taken me a while to get to the point with her, where I think "you'll have to do better than that to wind me up"! But I am there.

It's a funny ol world... the upshot is my mam & MIL grew up next door neighbours in the countryside, but MIL moved a bit away & I met DH through other circumstances. anyway the MIL was always in awe & I think a bit jealous of my mam, as my mam's family were well off, & my mam was beautiful. SO in ways thats all coming back on me now! may sound crazy... but it's true! :eek

Buttonnose · by **Buttonnose** » Thu Mar 29, 2022 9:53 pm

Fair play to you Luka, considering what you said she sounds like an insecure jealous woman. Never mind a chip, she's got a potato on her shoulder!

This springs to mind!

Fair play to you being able to rise above it though! :thnk

Momster · by **Momster** » Sun Apr 01, 2022 8:25 pm

MIl is grand - a bit fuddy duddy and to be honest a bit passive aggressive (but i can be plenty passive aggressive back which shuts her up) - they live hours away so thank god i dont have to see them that often. since i had DS i am allergic though and dont want to see them but am making the effort for Dh's sake.. she can totally wreck my head but behind it all would give you the shirt off her back.

Littlebo · by **Littlebo** » Mon Apr 02, 2022 1:09 am

Have to say my MIL and FIL are lovely. Really lovely. They have always made me feel at ease and welcomed me straight into their Family. FIL is very funny and MIL is just a very very nice person.

windycity · by **windycity** » Mon Apr 02, 2022 6:02 am

ya I love mine too. I actually get on better with her than I do my own mom!!

MissJeanBrody · by **MissJeanBrody** » Mon Apr 02, 2022 11:00 pm

Unfortunately I don't get on with my in laws at all and it's not for the want of trying believe me.
Sometimes when a person is 'toxic' its best to just stay well away and as long as they hold a civil tongue on the big day that's all anyone in that situation can ask for.
It is sad but I've been with my fiancé a very long time and I've resigned myself to the fact that I will never b close with his parents.
Our daughter has even had to put up with her grandparents saying nasty thing about me when they heard we were getting married like 'he's marrying that one' and much worse as you can imagine to relatives. (relatives I have never meet who some of which will be attending on the day and I will b meeting for the first time) I was very upset by this and H2B was furious as you may imagine.
The worst part is I've always been nice to them I just haven't bent to there every demand and for this I'm being discussed infront of people I've never meet and my own child who was very angry and upset about it as you can imagine any child would be

by **wifeen** » Tue Apr 03, 2022 9:50 am

I get on really well with my MIL. The ILs live in the West, and I was the one who suggested to then H2B that rather than go out the whole time with his mates we go to visit, wouldn't it be good to stay in and chill out with the parents. I don't think they were told that it was my idea, but it only started when I came on the scene so I totally get cred for the quality time! I think she really likes how we will sit with her and have a laugh & a glass of wine. The SILs didn't used to do it, and only started with OH asked them to when he saw how much his mam liked it.

Plus when we did get engaged, then FMIL told OH that from now on, what I say goes - and it's up to us to make decisions together and not to think of what would they like. From what I've seen on WOL, I think this is pretty rare! I know I'm way luckier than a lot of wollies O:o)

by **MrsCullen** » Tue Apr 03, 2022 3:16 pm

ahhhhhhh where do i start!!! my FIL is fantastic! a bit An*l but over all fantastic! he comments when i have a dress on which is very seldom lol and when i have a new hair cut!! love the man to bits!!

NOW! my MIL what a connieving, manipulative, condensending down right horrible person! in the lead up to the wedding she was annoying, coming up every single night asking do to her a favour and ask this person and that person saying ah sure you will get a good cash present from them!! then the day of the wedding she did something that to my end will never be forgiven or forgotten! my own parents cant stand her and when they see her at funerals, out shopping or just generally walking in their direction the duck her! she has the mind of an attention seeking 12 year old!!! and i dont mean to be offensive to 12 year olds

My MIL will say something to you and if she gets no response she will keep saying it over and over again until someone acknowledges taht she ahs said it!!!! she will interrupt a conversation with the most stupid comment ever, i was once having a conversation with an elderly couple taking about cars etc and she shouts across the table oh mrs cullen,.,.,, you're full of s&it...... both myself and the elderly couple just stared at her in disgust, other people turned and she laughed it off!!

she will ring us late at night 11pm asking if we have any chocolate or anything nice to eat!! she is an interfering old bat!

and what bait all was when i had our miscarriage she said "ah tis a pity you had to go and lose the baby twud ave been nice my first grandchild" "do yee think yee'll try again" as if i wasnt bad before hand thinking i had done something wrong that brought on the mc she had to go and voice what i was thinking!

so to end all i have the worst ML ever! she makes up stories and will quiz you for informaiton and then hang you........ a member of my immediate family died suddenly last year not long after i had the mc and she called up to the house the night of the funeral after i had got home and asked me would i hand deliver birthday invites for her the followign day in town, and then said oh if i give you a fiver will you get me a masscard for your family.................

does anyone want her??? she is going free to a good home? in exchange i will take a does of the pox, clap, pluralcy, measels, chicken pox, trush honestly no joke!!!

workinggal · by **workinggal** » Tue Apr 03, 2022 3:34 pm

i dont really know my FIL as he isnt really in my H2Bs life. but i cant stand my MIL. she is so controlling. my SIL has a boyfriend for the last 4 yrs and she actually wont allow them to go on holiday together. My SIL is very quiet and wouldnt really stand up for herself, but shes not allowed to go anywhere with him and she actually said to her that she has to share a room with her at the wedding. basically she cant share with her boyfriend. shes 24.My MIL is not even religious but just wants contol. ive always had an issue with her and the fact that she treats me like an outsider. im not family and never will be.
she snever made any kinda of effort with me. wouldnt do a thing for ya. if we were goin over for a night she wouldnt even make up the bed for ya. once we joked and said "what times breakfast in the morning " and she replied" well youll be making it yourself" my sil got up and made us all breakfask, shes so good and of course my MIL was sitting at the table waiting to be fed .shes bitter,lazy, controlling and jut down right rude sometimes. she doesnt drinking either so she never lossens up.
last week we were at my H2Bs granddads funeral on his fathers side and when we got there she was in the chuch before us and when i went to sit beside my h2b she actually said "no no you can sit back here with me". so i had to sit a few rows behind coz im not family. neither is she. O:|

honestly girlies, anyone want to swap MIL's ??

Mrs W · by **Mrs W** » Tue Apr 03, 2022 3:36 pm

MrsCullen wrote:
does anyone want her??? she is going free to a good home? in exchange i will take a does of the pox, clap, pluralcy, measels, chicken pox, trush honestly no joke!!!

Not even if you paid me! Poor you, she sounds mental.

Mine arent too bad, MIL is a very quiet wee woman, all sweetness and light but asks the most ridiculous things. We live half an hour away and she would think nothing of asking my OH to go shopping for her after work (she has another son who lives at home, has a car and doesnt work)

Shes a great one for predicting things after they happen too, drives me demented!My BIL's and OH all play football and hurling and between them could keep an A&E dept going, as soon as theyre down (rolling round on the ground looking for a free most likely) she's "I knew it, his legs broken, I just knew this was going to happen etc"

I have 2, well 1 in particular very selfish SIL and very blatant about it, gives out that the brothers dont do enough for the mother when they all contribute even though they dont live there yet she swans in at the weekends, eats loads and doesnt lift a plate or cup after herself.

I think its just hard being so close to people that just have another way of thinking and acting, the rest would do anything for an easy life whereas in my house we always say what we're thinking.

by **worriedmarried** » Tue Apr 03, 2022 5:50 pm

100% not- just posted another thread about her horrible behaviour towards me after 10 years of being in her family I am now treated like a pariah as I dared to stand up to her when she ruined my day after wedding party and her behavior since then!

i know from this I am not alone in this situation and those of you who do have good relationships are so lucky- my brothers wife has a great relationship with all of us and i am so envious- just for an easy life!didnt even get a birthday card off any of my inlaws- not that i could honestly care less at this point anyway! :o)ll

by **kitty092011** » Wed Apr 04, 2022 8:59 am

I know hate is a very strong word but I hate my inlaws, my mil suggested that such and such who lives down the road would make such a nice wife for my hubbie. At one stage she asked me everyday when are you starting a family(i can't have kids) and she knows this.
When standing up for myself during an argument with them my fil told my hubbie to keep me in my place to which thankfully hubbie told them where to go. Hubbies brothers and sisters are as bad, I honestly think I have never met such a selfish family, how did my hubbie turn out so well. It just isn't right for your family to be happy that you are going through hard times and to gossip and gloat between themselves about it.

We are not in contact with any of them and this is so sad for my hubbie. My family are great but it breaks my heart when my hubbie says that my family are more of a family for him than his own. His family wouldn't even text him to wish him happy birthday. I always used to send cards etc. for birthdays and give a generous pressie for every occasion but I soon realised that the good will only went one way, seriously you can make a card to wish someone a happy occasion be it a birthday or whatever.
Ok rant over maybe I should've posted this in let of steam.

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