i have been on and off here in the last 2 years since our wedding due to a fallout at the wedding with me and MIL- i wont go into it chapter and verse but she made a holy show of me and my family as well as hers the day after our wedding, manipulated my DH and has been doing so ever since. relationship has been strained since to say the least but recently we agreed to just see each other occasions which suited me fine (despite their efforts to have me there at their beck and call!). last time i seem her was for my FIL birthday at their house when she completely blanked me- i told my dh who confronted her after only to be told that it was cos i didnt make an effort to go for the meal (despite me telling my dh that my optician appt had run over and so i would end up eating late when they had already eaten and which my dh was fine with as i agreed to go there for a drink after). mil and fil threw my dh out of the house for daring to defend me!- to say i was fuming is an understatement- i am beyond caring what they think of me at this stage- i couldnt care less have been hurt and ignored too many times for daring to stand up to the sugar!! now i havent seen them since and agreed with dh that i am not seeing them any time soon after the last time! so his princess of a sister (who has done her own bit of stirring in all of this) has come over on holiday lke she does every opp she can to dump her kids off and we all have to jump to her tune !i said i was not going so dh went and came back like a lunatic! asking again why i could not go -= why i could not move on etc etc..... !!! naturally i was fuming at this after our last agreement on this subject and cant help thinking that even though he said its him that wants things back to how they wre(they never can be too much hurt there for me) that they are stirring in the background. It was my birthday the weekend and because she sent me a happy birthday text (which i did respond thanks too against my better judgement) apparantly that is her making an effort with me- yet on at least 3 occasions since I have been blatantly ignored and treated like a pariah!! DH is full of apologies today and said that although he is gutted and will never fully understand my side (which is frustrating to say the least) that he will tell them tonite not to expect to see me anytime soon and verse versa! Now the proud person in me is happy with this (coulnt care less if i never seen any of them again believe me) but the other part of me is wondeing if i should be more supportive of my dh in this who although is definately not helping this situation despite his best efforts but i do feel for him as he just wants things to be amicable! the other thing is that i very much doubt that that will be the end of it anyway. I just resent them all so much (his brothers and sisters have done nothing to help and his FIL just goes along with her for an easy life) and i am worried we will resent each other because of this as its just tearing us apart.
sorry for such a long post- tried to condense but i guess i have a lot of pent up frustration and would really appreciate any advice this time as i got some great help when this first happend...thank you
