Oral question

HisBoo · by **HisBoo** » Thu May 10, 2022 9:38 am

So... I'm 26 .. and I've never given OH a Bj.... I've never given any of my past bf's a bj.. I've never given one...

The thoughts of doing it makes me so sick.. and i almost feel like I'm degrading myself.. i just can't wrap my head around the thoughts of it ... I know men (most) absolutely love it .. and i know OH would LOVE for me to do it.. But i just can't ... Also realize 90% of it is I've it built up in my own head to be a lot worse then it prob is and I've been told once i see his reaction and how it makes him melt,doing it won't bother me..
Since i don't give i don't expect to receive but he likes giving it to me..and sometimes i feel guilty so ill stop him and just tell him do something else..

Am i alone .. Is anyone else completely against thing?! or have just never done so... :-8

Ellefun · by **Ellefun** » Thu May 10, 2022 10:33 am

I love oral myself so I figure to receive, I should be willing to give :o0

DH does love BJs and I don't mind giving them. I had never done it before until I met DH. I do think it's a very intimate s*xual act so can see why it's difficult at first. It's not something you should ever feel you should do or have to do though. Some people just don't like recieving or giving oral. To each their own.

by **outdoorqueen** » Tue May 15, 2022 1:44 pm

hi hisboo, you are not alone, hate them, never give them, dh does plague me a bit about it... but cant bring myself, it doesnt affect our sex life :-8

HisBoo · by **HisBoo** » Tue May 15, 2022 1:52 pm

Hiya OutDoorQueen,

Yeah he nags me aswell but i just can't !! Its kinda like my fear of spiders .. Putting that in my mouth and spiders are on the same level!! :yelrotflmaosmilie:

(Seriously tho)

Thankfully it have done any damage to our sex life either.. i guess sometimes i feel a lil guilty

babydust2012 · by **babydust2012** » Tue May 15, 2022 3:40 pm

You are certainly not alone, I hate them but I have given them on special occasions to hubby as I know he loves it and is very generous in giving which I certainly appreciate!!! I do think its mind over matter because when ever I do do it, its not as bad really :-8

Mrs W · by **Mrs W** » Tue May 15, 2022 4:09 pm

I have only ever done it with OH too. He loves them but I only do it for special occasions >:o)

We were coming up the motorway a good few years ago and I did it for a laugh, then a lorry drove past and saw me....

babyhopesanddreams12 · by **babyhopesanddreams12** » Tue May 15, 2022 4:13 pm

Mrs W wrote:We were coming up the motorway a good few years ago and I did it for a laugh, then a lorry drove past and saw me....

dont know what expression to use. You must have been morto.. No special motorway treats for him anymore :o0

I dont like it either but do it as dh loves them.. Always make him have a good wash 1st :-8

Nostress · by **Nostress** » Tue May 15, 2022 4:46 pm

I love giving them :-8

love seeing the look on OHs face when I surprise him with "a treat"!!! >:o)

nye2012 · by **nye2012** » Tue May 22, 2022 10:00 am

Sorry to laff.. but am laffing at the comment of "special Occassions" I do the exact same.. or when I am extremeley drunk he mite get lucky!!! lol...

I have to be honest though ... when I was not in a relationship I was more forthcoming with them.. dunno what it is about being in a relationship that makes me not want to do it as much!!! And he plaugues me constantly!! maybe if he's stop asking i'd be more giving.

But to get back to the main point... cud you talk to him about it?? Maybe have a shower together and do it there.. then its deffo all clean!!!

x

glitterlamp · by **glitterlamp** » Tue May 22, 2022 12:52 pm

Neither my partner or me are very into the oral part, but when we do it is very intimate and I enjoy it even more. There are other parts of our bodies that drive us wild so it doesn't need to be completely oral. ;o)

by **Twunt Face** » Wed May 23, 2022 12:11 pm

I love them not a fan of receiving it. Am I weird?

by **Dr of love** » Thu May 24, 2022 7:27 am

I see oral as a natural and positive part of our sex life. I think there would be something missing without it. Having said that, I can't bring myself to swallow...wish I could.

micls · by **micls** » Thu May 24, 2022 11:21 am

Twunt Face wrote:I love them not a fan of receiving it. Am I weird?

Nope, we're all into different things.

OP, if you want to try, maybe work up to the full thing? As in, you don't have to spend the whole time doing it, add it in to start for a very short time during foreplay and then carry on with your usual, and then you can see how you feel and build up how long you do it for.

I love it, but for shorter periods, either to lead up or finish off, my jaw gets tired if it's the whole show :D

FutureMrsS · by **FutureMrsS** » Fri Jun 01, 2022 3:16 pm

I wouldn't do anything you're not comfortable with for starters... however, if you're curious about it, there are a few ways to make it more...palatable... :o0

For starters, a friends of mine never give her other half a BJ without him wearing a condom... not entirely sure how that works, just saying, it can be done...
You could also try having a really strong flavour sweet (like a Halls Soother or an Airwave or something) in your mouth at same time... there's not much taste until the end mind you... >:o)

but you could try it as foreplay thus eliminating the risk! But it might make the thing a bit easier to get your head around if you genuinely are only tasting mint...

I think it adds greatly to a relationship personally... but there is a HUGE trust element in it, for me anyway... I would never, could never, have never done or received oral from someone I didn't love and was in a long-term relationship with... but now, I wouldn't do it every day, or week for that matter, but it does allow you to be closer to your OH...

Also, I think if you're not going to give it, you shouldn't receive it... fair is fair!

Nostress · by **Nostress** » Fri Jun 01, 2022 3:43 pm

You could also try having a really strong flavour sweet (like a Halls Soother or an Airwave or something) in your mouth at same time

Jesus are you trying to kill the man???? :eek

I know from even using a mint/tea tree shower gel the sensation is horrible (sorry if tmi) but I know for a fact my OH would freak if I did this.
I know some lubricants have mint in them but mild amounts, not Airwave power punches to the gonades.

Not only is the sensation weird but it's not safe to use things like this on the "sensitive parts"

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