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BM issues :-(

Re: BM issues :-(

Postby Belle28 » Sat Apr 28, 2022 8:07 pm

One word here"jealous"

this is ur big day not her's put her in her place or get rid of her!
You don't need this extra stress coming up to the big day!
X goodluck x :thnk
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby Char27 » Sun Apr 29, 2022 10:12 pm

Wow ladies Im really overwhlemed with everyones support!!! I called her yesterday to ask her to meet for coffee but she said shes busy for the next two weeks and after that shes going to Vegas for 3 weeks so she doesnt have time to meet :-(

I guess I'll have to just have to call around unannounced because shes never THAT busy. She's just avoiding me because I think she knows whats coming. Wish me luck and Ill let you know how it goes asap.

Thank you so so so much again :-) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby the bees knees » Sun Apr 29, 2022 10:23 pm

Best of Luck Char xxx You Know you are doing the right thing...... xx
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby lulu126 » Mon Apr 30, 2022 10:56 am

Sounds like she's making excuses about being busy, Char, cos she knows her behaviour's way out of line. You're definitely not a bridezilla- your friend sounds like a nightmare. I'd drop round and just ask her how would she feel if the roles were reversed and you were saying to her that you weren't excited about her wedding cos there was nothing in it for you. I can't believe she said that. I'd definitely guess that she's jealous.

Keep us posted and stay strong!
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby MrsDuffy2b » Mon Apr 30, 2022 11:08 am

Firstly!!!! :action32 :action32 :action32 :action32 :action32

Tbh shes sounds horrible, how dare she tell ur h2b she hopes he dies!!!! What sort of crazy person is she!!!!
She doesnt sound very helpful and your bm's are supposed to help u and de-stress u when needed but she seems to be stressing u out and not very helpful!!!! I would dump her and not even think about her again!!!!
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby candlequeen » Mon Apr 30, 2022 2:18 pm

Just wanted to add my support Char, it's not easy confronting someone but it's something you have to do - it's unbelievable how people can change, unfortunately it's something I think we all have to go through but at the end of it you'll feel much better. I hope you get things sorted soon so you can relax and enjoy the rest of your planning xx
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby excitedbride12 » Mon Apr 30, 2022 3:53 pm

Your BM sounds like a nightmare and I dont know how you can be friends with her for so long if she is like this. Your wedding is meant to be the happiest day of your life, dont let her spoil it for you, I would have a stern word with her and if she cant be there for you, tell her to come as a guest but not as BM
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby Jomcodoodle » Mon Apr 30, 2022 5:03 pm

If she refuses to meet her you could always write her a letter. I wouldn't even get into how she is making you feel i would just be factual that her behaviour is disgraceful and she is an embarrassment to herself. Make sure you leave her with no doubt in her mind that her behaviour has been appalling. i can't believe she actually said she wished your oh would die and she doesn't realise she should commit herself to an institution!
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby rainbowgirl » Tue May 01, 2022 9:15 am

Like all the others I'm SHOCKED and HORRIFIED at the way your BM is treating you after all the years you've been friends and the things she's said are horrendous! BUT to me it sounds like she's got a major problem and is heading for a breakdown. I would definately, once and for all, sit her down and thrash it all out because theres no way you should be dealing with this stress at a time when it should be the happiest of your life. if you don't get anywhere then you've done your best. Is there any way you could talk to her parents/sisters (if they are in the picture?) She's definately on cloud cuckoo land saying she'll be married before you, pregnant etc. It just seems so much more than being jealous. Please post how you get on with her.
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby Crystal Gal » Thu May 03, 2022 10:30 am

Best of luck, you deserve so much better :action32
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby 2012 » Thu May 03, 2022 10:57 am

I'd be having a long think about why you are friends with her!! Weddings can bring out the worse in some people!!

Don't ask her to do anything from now on, get your sisters to do it for you and then decide after the wedding if you want to keep being friends with her!!

Good luck and enjoy your day!!
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby Lindy79 » Thu May 03, 2022 3:47 pm

Jesus! :eek

It does sound like the ramblings of someone who is having some sort of issues so as someone else suggested, if you can't speak to her maybe a mutual friend or family member? Has anyone else noticed she is acting this way?
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Re: BM issues :-(

Postby notabridezilla » Mon May 07, 2022 6:39 pm

I actually started laughing with complete disbelief when i read your post, that is mental!

your definately better off not having her, as what ever about being a little unhelpful she is actually causing issues for you!
myself and my oh have a similar issue with one of his groomsmen, and the oh is trying to get up the nerve to tell him to 'sling it' as it were. He is very negative about us getting married and was asked to be gm after a few drinks and a mis placed sense of loyalty from my lovely OH.
I hope all went/goes ok with her but its in times like this you realise who you can count on!
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