Presents for parents

mar12 · by **mar12** » Wed May 02, 2022 11:32 pm

girls its very hard for mother of the groom to get involve.

I have 4 brothers and my mum would be the worst. they always mean well, but you have to look at the person. my mum is brilliant in some cases. when there is an emergency, she is always so cool.

my brother got married 3yrs ago and im sure my sister inlaw though what you ye all though . no help etc. they have 1 child who was born early and had to have heart surgeon.
my sister in law turn around to me and told me my mum was brilliant. she made lasangae and it was so handy to be heated up in hospital.

look what i am trying to say, is that every one has there strenghts, and they always mean the right thing. but some times its really hard to see that.

with regards presents to by the parents. we went for chains. you cant go wrong.

look if the mother in law seems like she is not involve, dont look at it like that, she is the mother of the person you are marrying. and if anyone family is like mine there is always drama. some one acting up. her heart is there but she does not no how

FutureMrsS · by **FutureMrsS** » Thu May 03, 2022 7:42 am

Again, I really don't see the problem with singling your mum out and making a bit of a fuss of her at the wedding. There's nothing wrong at all with it. I think it would make for a beautiful gesture. And just because you're singling your mum out doesn't mean you have to single out mil too... personally, I think it would detract from the gesture to your own mum if you singled out mil too as it somehow lessens the effect and might seem forced?

Daisy Row · by **Daisy Row** » Thu May 03, 2022 8:11 am

The night before the wedding the parents got their presents and then we paid for the 2 night hotel stay. All the bridal party got their presents the night before, it really got the excitement going!!

lindacork · by **lindacork** » Thu May 03, 2022 9:57 am

mar12 wrote:girls its very hard for mother of the groom to get involve.

I have 4 brothers and my mum would be the worst. they always mean well, but you have to look at the person. my mum is brilliant in some cases. when there is an emergency, she is always so cool.

my brother got married 3yrs ago and im sure my sister inlaw though what you ye all though . no help etc. they have 1 child who was born early and had to have heart surgeon.
my sister in law turn around to me and told me my mum was brilliant. she made lasangae and it was so handy to be heated up in hospital.

look what i am trying to say, is that every one has there strenghts, and they always mean the right thing. but some times its really hard to see that.

with regards presents to by the parents. we went for chains. you cant go wrong.

look if the mother in law seems like she is not involve, dont look at it like that, she is the mother of the person you are marrying. and if anyone family is like mine there is always drama. some one acting up. her heart is there but she does not no how

Totally agree with you, every family has drama, and every parent has their strenght and weaknesses, sadly strenghts are very rarely acknowledged. I would defo NOT give a gift to my mum and not my MIL to be. i dont think my parents would be too happy with me doing that, regardless of what my mum or mil has or hasnt done - know what i mean? I have had a fair bit of drama as regards my own wedding and the one thing ive learned is that the last you want to come accross as is the baddy. As hard as it may be, you cant not give you mum something and not your mil. theres a time and place, maybe yourself and you mum could find a private moment the morning of the wedding? Your ENTIRE family will be there and likewise his entire family will be there. The last thing u want on your wedding day is to p**s anyone off.

FutureMrsS · by **FutureMrsS** » Thu May 03, 2022 10:06 am

I actually feel particularly strongly about this as I will be doing a brides speech and recognising my mum in it as a person I'm very close to. I don't see any reason why mil should be recognised as well as mother by you if you're not particularly close. Your mum has made you who you are today and has been one of the mist influential people in your life. I think the gesture is cheapened for your mum if you include mil, personally. Find another way to recognise mils involvement or have the groom thank her in his speech maybe?

highbeam · by **highbeam** » Thu May 03, 2022 10:27 am

This obviously differs depending on relationships between you and your MIL and your OH and his mother. I think it is perfectly fine to give a special mention and thank you to your mother in your speech but I think it is wrong to present a gift to her and not to your MIL. Yes she is the one who raised you but your MIL did that for your H2B. Remember this is a person who you will have to deal with for years to come so I don't think it is a good idea to burn bridges from the very start. I agree often it is hard for the grooms mother to be involved and she may come across as uninterested equally you hear brides giving out about MILs taking too much interest and being so demanding, Im sure there aren't too many that have a happy medium. I think if you wanted to give your Mam a special present privately but equal presents at the reception it is fairer. As someone else said all your family and all his family are going to be there.

During the speeches I always notice when parents are not thanked, nothing is said about the other family, the bride or groom is not welcomed into the family or the groom forgets to mention his bride. I think they are really important in speeches and it is a mistake to leave them out.

CarolinaMoon · by **CarolinaMoon** » Thu May 03, 2022 11:01 am

morningsun wrote:ClaireT I would acknowledge how amazing your mother has being privately but I would definitely not do anything publicly to one mother and not to another. My mam is amazing and has been a fantastic mother and always there for me but I don’t feel we need to do a public declaration of that because as long as she knows how much appreciate it, it doesn’t matter.

Awkward Annie, we ordered pocket watches from ebay for the best man, groomsman and father of the groom. They came yesterday and I am delighted with them! they are also engraved. They are cheap enough versions (about €20) so if you want a real fancy one they aren’t suitable but they look lovely so if you want the seller let me know.

We got my FMIL a compact mirror with “Mother of the Groom” on it (she is into sentimental things anyways). My mam has gotten a champagne glass with MOB and her name, paying for her make-up and few bits of cosmetics she likes. After the wedding we will be getting them little storybook wedding albums. Not presenting flowers or anything on the day.

morningsun, would you send me the link for the pocketwatches please?

lindacork · by **lindacork** » Thu May 03, 2022 2:40 pm

FutureMrsS wrote:I actually feel particularly strongly about this as I will be doing a brides speech and recognising my mum in it as a person I'm very close to. I don't see any reason why mil should be recognised as well as mother by you if you're not particularly close. Your mum has made you who you are today and has been one of the mist influential people in your life. I think the gesture is cheapened for your mum if you include mil, personally. Find another way to recognise mils involvement or have the groom thank her in his speech maybe?

By you recognising your own mum and not your mil - it will only make people think that theres something wrong with yours and your mil relationship. The only way to make it look ok is if your OH presented his mum with a gift during his speech?
I personally dont think the bride should make a speech, i wont be, but to each there own. ;-)

ccjmch · by **ccjmch** » Thu May 03, 2022 6:14 pm

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/1968-Eire-Iri ... 45fe954930

This is link to pocket watches :-8

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