Niggly wedding day annoyances-get it off your chest!

Anne Cordelia Shirley · by **Anne Cordelia Shirley** » Tue Jan 10, 2022 9:11 am

Maybe this will help some people! Just reading some threads (including a recent one!) about people's little niggly problems after the wedding day. I have some. A friend turned up late, missing my ceremony, and left early, no real explanation and it still bugs me. Also one really minor things about our venue is still annoying me months down the line, I just realised how much it annoys me when we picked our wedding pics last night. The annoyance came flooding back!
Obviously it doesn't ruin your day or anything like it but those little things are annoying, so get them off your chest here!

Happily Ever After · by **Happily Ever After** » Tue Jan 10, 2022 9:47 am

Fortunately I only have one!! It's quite a big one though.... I had some trouble with the BM dresses and fittings and the girls all ended up having somebody different working on their dresses depending on location etc anyway morning of the wedding we are getting photos taken right before we leave the house and we noticed that the optional shoulder was sewn on the wrong side of one of the dresses!!! At the time I just wanted to get to the church as I was already 10 mins late and I was adamant I didn't want to leave guests waiting too long so we left them be!! BIG mistake as it drives me nuts every time I look at the photos!! it's not noticeable in all of the pictures though which is great apart from that everything went to plan....

MinnietheMinx · by **MinnietheMinx** » Tue Jan 10, 2022 10:17 am

Nothing really upset me but the niggly things
- Suit shop sent my dad a shirt and tie instead of a shirt and cravat as they were short a cravat in my colour. Never said a word! Best man went in to pick up a shirt and cravat (guys wore light blue, Dad had a silver grey). The colour difference didn't bother me I just couldn't believe the shop never said anything!
- OHs cousins who were told over and again that their children were not to come to the church sent the girls to the play ground with the au pair BUT bought the newborn boy to the church where he cried through our vows (Ours was a strictly no children wedding)
- The function room was far too hot. The band was excellent and everyone was dancing and the room was boiling. I ended up changing out of my dress after the band as I was far too hot and felt like I was going to collapse.
- My aunts partner pulled his car out behind the bridesmaids car in front of my parents car for the drive to the venue after the church- my mam is still livid over it.
- This didn't bother me at all but one of my BMs sprained her ankle a few days before the wedding and she was freaking out about having to hobble up the aisle.

Mari yay · by **Mari yay** » Tue Jan 10, 2022 7:28 pm

Oh, this is a good idea!!
I have nothing major now, but again niggly annoying things!!

- Make up artist had a mix up, thought I had cancelled her, but it was someone else and it somehow got mixed up with my booking. Now I wasn't stressed when I rang her to see why she was late, wasn't stressed waiting for her, girls were laughing at how calm I was! And she did a fantastic job on the make up, no argument there. However, when it was time to pay her, she just accepted the full amount, despite the fact that she was there 2 hours less than we had agreed. If she had tried to give some back or something (I still would have paid her the full amount though), but it just left a bad taste in my mouth.

- The band played our first dance off a CD, even though I specifically requested them to sing it live. I remember being vaguely aware of it at the time, but it did bother me watching it back on the DVD.

- The suit shop flipped up too. I asked for teal TIES not cravats to match the BM dresses. I had to go and buy material myself as they couldn't get an exact match. No problem, I did that. Went to collect the suits and he presented me with cravats, which I really don't like and neither does DH. I could have got over that, but when I said it to the owner that I had asked for ties, he tried to claim that I didn't. Only for DH came out of the dressing room at that exact moment saying we had ordered ties there would have been a stand off. And again, even though the service hadn't been provided as agreed, he also took full payment without so much as an offer of a tenner off. And my dad has been using this shop for donkey's years, just felt it was bad form again. I ended up keeping the poxy cravats in the end I said I wasn't handing them back to him to hire to others when I paid for the material myself.

- Once couple were late to the church, which didn't bother me as much as I thought it would, but this guy introduced us, and was meant to be the best man but pulled out a couple of months after being asked. He was mentioned in the ceremony as the priest asked how we met, and the videographer zoomed in on some random face in the crowd.

frankenbride · by **frankenbride** » Wed Jan 11, 2022 1:00 am

After posting in the other thread I said Feck it and emailed hotel with a big waffly email about all the things that niggled me - it went onto 4 pages and that was me holding back haha

I got a reply today offering me a 2 night stay with them. I know this is a good offer but I think the way hotels (well mine) make you pay upfront gives you no comeback as I would probably have made my OH say something on the day and try to get some discount as there was sooo many mess ups on their part.

by **kitty092011** » Wed Jan 11, 2022 9:51 am

1. The bestman made a cr*p speech, obvious that he didn't sit down and plan it. Plus he didn't mention me once.
2. We almost forgot to cut the cake, it was only a close friend motioned to it as we were all getting up after dinner.
3. Didn't get some photos we really wanted.
4. FIl was an a**, we had to make a little change to who went in what car to the church and Fil kept saying are you sure hubbie will be ok with this change.
5. People not turning up who had RSVP that they were coming, we had 4 no shows, thankfully they were seated at the back of the room so I didn't notice it too much.
6. We had ordered two swans filled with handmade choccies for the tea/coffee/champagne reception, when we arrived they were all gone and I asked my sister had people been taking handfulls but no they were stuffed with grease proof paper and only had a few sweets in them. At the time I was too busy to get onto the company but now it drives me mad thinking about it.( They were very pricey too)

This feels good, thanks for letting me finally get it off my chest.

Magsk · by **Magsk** » Fri Jan 13, 2022 11:12 am

frankenbride wrote:After posting in the other thread I said Feck it and emailed hotel with a big waffly email about all the things that niggled me - it went onto 4 pages and that was me holding back haha

I got a reply today offering me a 2 night stay with them. I know this is a good offer but I think the way hotels (well mine) make you pay upfront gives you no comeback as I would probably have made my OH say something on the day and try to get some discount as there was sooo many mess ups on their part.

Hi Frankenbride fellow Osprey Bride - How did your big day go? Had ye any problems with them on the day??? loved to know so i can plan ahead? :wv

frankenbride · by **frankenbride** » Fri Jan 13, 2022 2:19 pm

Magsk sent you a PM you'll have a fab day O-O

errigal08 · by **errigal08** » Sun Jan 15, 2022 4:42 pm

oh this is a great idea,iv nothing to bad but a few things are now annoying me..
my dads speech was ,well crap!
it was that short that by the time the bestman had past the mic to him and sat back down it was over,that brings me to the best man,he dident say one word about me,nothing!
its a wee bit annoying but manly because my dad said nothing,
im annoyed at myself for not saying a speech,i was all ready for it too but my husband said such a lovely one that i was a bit chocked up..
im annoyed at my dress :o0

for being soo uncomfortable,my god it was so hard to breath,i was in the car holding onto the door handle on the way to the ceremony and i was ready to cry it was so sore..at 10.30 i was considering changing into my day after dress,i dident but i kinda wish i had :o(

i feel better now
thank you

by **puph12** » Sun Jan 15, 2022 8:21 pm

Hi All,
loving this thread.. I have a few of them too. Friends not coming to the ceremoney and then showing up in the hotel and then heading away early with out saying anything. The one that gets me the most is The best man (my new brother in law) didnt pay the band or dvd guy cause he was too busy in the bar drinking with his own friends - DVD came up to me at the break looking for money.. i was so motified by it and his speech was crap way too long and made no sense in some parts. otherwise the day went pretty well.. xxx

errigal08 · by **errigal08** » Sun Jan 15, 2022 8:25 pm

ohh and i forgot to add,when we got to the hotel the mince pies and short bread were all gone,i asked someone were the mince pies nice only to be told there were none at all :eek

i was charged for those!

Jacqueline Hyde · by **Jacqueline Hyde** » Sun Jan 15, 2022 8:42 pm

My only real one was that the tables were not where they had been shown on the plan they had given me. So it meant our immediate families were not right in front of us where we wanted them. My family weren't miles away but OH's family were way over at the side. It looked really bad because obviously i was the one who was supposed to have decided where everyone went. I was a little mortified that people might think i put them there on purpose.

RainbowNinja · by **RainbowNinja** » Tue Jan 17, 2022 11:47 am

I ate watching my speech on the DVD. Was always planning on doing a speech and was planning to write it the day before, but there was so much going on, that I never got around to it so just winged it on the day and wish I didn't!

by **lilmissnaughty** » Wed Jan 18, 2022 4:25 pm

I never really post here but this is a great idea for a thread so I'll join in if you girls don't mind

We got married 6 months ago, and like you nothing majorly annoying but I have a long enough list of niggly things

1) My hair and make-up girls were late, not by much maybe half an hour, didn't stress me at all as I was very chilled, maybe too chilled, i should have gone earlier for hair/make-up but I just didn't realise how long my make-up would take, I wish the make-up girl would have told me, she surely knew, it just meant i got no time after make-up, i wanted to pop the champagne and relax a little but it was straight into my dress. My fault I suppose I just wish she had advised me.

2) A friend who's wedding I had put lots of effort into a few years ago (made her scrolls, favours, went wedding dress shopping with her, had her bouquet framed while she was on honeymoon), came, made no effort to talk to me, left early saying she was sick even though she can be heard with her loud laugh on the video minutes before, she actually went off to meet her new boyfriend (she's sep from her hubby), didn't even give a card to wish us well, and has made no mention of it since - no thank you for a lovely day, nothing, when I put the pics on fb she commented on one of herself and nothing else, not that I expect compliments but even - it was such a lovely day, you look happy, something, but not a duck bird. She hurt me alot actually. I went foreign for her hen, we went 2 hours down the road and she messed us about big time, got a text after our meal to say she wasn't coming - ah no sugar sherlock! (Sorry that turned out to be more of a rant than a little niggle :-8

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3) The hotel - I actually emailed them about 3 weeks ago with this, i just needed it off my chest, but briefly (1) We had a cocktail reception which was supposed to be served outside depending on the day, we had one of the hottest days of the year and it was inside and down a corridor away from everyone, only a small group even knew it was there and I had put lots of work into and really fought for it too - grrr
(2) I had been saving up stuff for the bathroom baskets, they told me it was ok they had one sorted and assured me everything was in it so I didn't send in any of the stuff I had, their basket consisted of a load of hotel shampoo and conditioner - seriously???

Oh one more thing, we picked out the music with the singer and told the organist months in advance, she said no bother she would sort it out with the singer. On the day we were sitting there for communion going - what the hell is that song??? same with the signing of the register - turns out the organist announced the morning of the wedding she didn't know the songs so they had to improvise - i was raging about this, I didn't know the 2 horrible songs so they meant nothing to us whereas the other ones did, plus I made my own massbooklets, which took ages, I didn't go to all that bother for the organise to make it look like I made a mistake!!

I can't quite decide if that was good to get out of whether it's brought all back to me and made me annoyed again :yelrotflmaosmilie:

by **Elizabeth Bennett** » Thu Jan 19, 2022 10:46 am

Great idea, I have a few things...........

1. Our photographer was useless, my mother persuaded me to go with him because he was a neighbour and was cheapish. Big mistake and one I bitterly regret. I could cry now when i see beautiful photos on here and see how real professionals do it. We have about 3 good photos to frame but nothing too exciting after that. Our wedding album is nothing to write home about!

2. My dress was too long, I told the dressmaker this 50 times but I was persuaded that it would ruin the beautiful lace at the end of the dress taking it up and that my shoes were high enough to not have it dragging on the floor in front of me. Well it WAS dragging on the floor and was only by the grace of god and me standing bolt right up going up the aisle that I didn't trip over it.
Also i said a million times that i wanted the bust taken in more but again she said it was grand....I still cringe at some photos where the angle is less than flattering to my poor boobies :-8

3. The Dj was crap, I was sorry I didn't just play a cd of the songs we wanted. Wouldn't have wasted 350 euro and would have had a much better time.

Other than that everything was fab.

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