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hol
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| Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2022 3:12 pm Post subject: Where to find 'good' men? |
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Hi,
Just following on from 'where did you meet your OH', I was wondering where people recommend as good places to meet someone these days? A couple of my friends are around the 28-30 age group and are getting disillusioned that all the good guys are taken. All they seem to meet on nights out are mostly guys with baggage - be it emotionally scarred from previous relationships or very insecure or commitment phobes. I know it sounds like a cliche but unfortunately it's somewhat true. Any suggestions for where to find the 'good' men? |
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2babridesoon
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| Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2022 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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I think there are so many good men out there! Personally I think there are loads of great opportunity places to me like minded people, I know a friend of mine is in a walking group and he has meet loads of people thru there any sort of club once you have a genuine interest. _________________
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gina1
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| Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2022 3:47 pm Post subject: |
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I second that about the walking group but I think you will find most guys are more interested in mountainering than actually just walking...
Also one of my mates met her now husband through the sailing club...
What about a few rounds of golf and a drink in the bar after loads of guys there
The gym...loads of guys there...
Seemingly cork is full of single guys...a friend was down there at a course a few weeks ago and got chatted up loads..she got talking to one guy who said that the guys love cork so much they just don't want to leave...
Galway another good spot for guys....
Dublin possibly being the worst...so many women so few guys...and stay away from the city centre go to the suburban pubs that play GAA at the weekends..always loads of guys there..........
Tell them try more weekends away at local festivals... |
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fishermans_bride
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| Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2022 3:56 pm Post subject: |
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I agree I think hobbies are the way to go, I met my h2b at a charity football match we were both playing in. The key is not to wait for prince charming to find you, you can't just sit in a bar hoping he'll burst into your life with a cosmapolitan, get out there and get active..... join a poker tournament, go to local gaa/ soccer games, join a gym etc..... people say its very hard to find a good man but the good women are all hiding inside IMO!!!! _________________
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dancingqueen
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| Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2022 8:53 pm Post subject: |
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It is not so much where you meet good men....My fiancee tells me stories about how is used to behave around women before he met me....I have to say he is the most manerly person I have ever met but lets just say that he would go out for a girl for a few weeks and then get sick of her and party over!!! So when a guy and girl meet and they are right for each other he will go to any lengths to keep her happy. My guy would go to the moon and back for me. You have to be open when I first met my fiancee I didn't have any interest in him at all but we got to know each other and just clicked.
ALSO READ HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!! SUCH AN EXCELLENT BOOK FOR THOSE ON THE DATING SCENE.....I read it after I had met my boy and looked back on past boyfriends and was like aaaahhhh, how stupid was I. |
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JDD
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| Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2022 12:08 pm Post subject: |
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Also, keep an open mind on men that aren't Irish.
I moved into a shared house four years ago with two of my single girlfriends, and we constantly bemoaned the lack of men in Ireland. One is now married to a South African, the other is about to get married to an Australian and I'm getting married to an English fella next year! |
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Trixy3
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My friend came out with us a couple of weeks ago and we met up with one of h2b's friends just by chance and my friend and h2b's friend hit it off and are seeing each other now which is brill
I'm thrilled... |
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Ivanka
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| Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2022 4:51 pm Post subject: Re: Where to find 'good' men? |
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| hol wrote: | Hi,
Just following on from 'where did you meet your OH', I was wondering where people recommend as good places to meet someone these days? |
lol... I really want to know the answer to this question too!!!
@ dancingqueen: you are so lucky! |
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layla09
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| Posted: Sat Jul 04, 2022 6:04 pm Post subject: |
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when I was 30 I was single and all my friends were dating or married and/or having babies. I found that I had no one to even go out with on a saturday night.
So I got a part-time job in a bar. This gave me the oppertunity to get dressed up, flirt with the customers and go home at the end of a fun night with 2 drinks and cash in my pocket.
I met my H2B over the bar! |
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Boadicea
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| Posted: Sun Jul 05, 2022 1:24 pm Post subject: |
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Definitly try a club! I joined a hill walking club and found it very easy to meet and talk with men in a casual way during a walk - far better than trying to chat in a loud pub or club (not my thing).
Be warned: the ratio of female to male in many of these clubs is 70:30! You have a better chance if you are fitter and can walk with the faster groups (usually more men in those groups) :)
I met my OH while out walking, and we couldn't be happier! I doubt we would have met outside the club we lived in different areas and worked in different fields. Couldn't imagine life without him now |
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tilsun
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| Posted: Sun Jul 05, 2022 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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At the risk of sounding like a "smug married" it may depend on what you mean by 'good'. There are lots of good men in every walk of life, from every background, in all sorts of clubs etc and many of them are struggling with fact that women don't seem to want to give them the time of day as they are not gorgeous, well dressed, home-owners etc. Now I'm not saying you are shallow or anything like that, but what is it you look for in a man?
I didn't meet OH until I was 30 and until then I had often complained about not being able to meet a good man. Around that time I changed my definition of "good" and have met loads since (stuck with OH though ) . But before that, if I'm being honest I probably wouldn't have given OH the time of day and that really would have been my loss.
I hope this doesn't sound like settling, it's about re-prioritizing what you're looking for. Have another look at all the single men you know, even distantly and see if any of them are good men.
Think the advice about clubs is also good. If you're happy etc you're way more attractive to others.
Best of luck |
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curly wurly
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| Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2022 1:16 pm Post subject: |
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i'm surprised nobody has mentioned online dating sites - plenty of people on here have met their OH on one of these sites - they're not only for weirdos you know! _________________  |
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dancingqueen
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Yeah...I heard that they are great alright. I have never used them myself but I think it is a great way of meeting people as you know people on the other end are really wanting to meet someone!! Best wishes to who ever is looking for "Mr Right".
Please do not look for "Mr Perfect"....but "Mr Right". |
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Twinkley
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| Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2022 4:20 pm Post subject: |
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Meeting a guy thru friends seems to be a popular one. That way you know he wont be a plonker (as such!) as can get a bit of background on him.
It happens when you least expect it. Everyone says that but its sooo true.
My friends parents met as her father and mother were sitting on a wall (separately with their friends) by the seaside on holidays and her father threw away a sandwich behind him that he didnt like and the sandwich hit her mother on the head by mistake! |
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Cathy34
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| Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2022 12:22 am Post subject: |
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| curly wurly wrote: | | i'm surprised nobody has mentioned online dating sites - plenty of people on here have met their OH on one of these sites - they're not only for weirdos you know! |
This will be my way to go when I am ready |
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