honeymoon two months after wedding!! good or bad idea

by **flashgordon** » Tue Aug 28, 2022 11:45 pm

hi all..
i have just joined this site against what i thought was my better judgement but realised the forum is excellent all the questions answered one might think of!!
well would like to hear what people think of my situation, im getting married next september 2013 and because of work we thought about leaving the honeymoon until november is this a big mistake or if we are both happy to do it should it matter much, was also kinda worried that it might leave us having to travel to get better weather so any ideas where to go would b great
flash

by **FutureWife** » Wed Aug 29, 2022 1:56 am

It's up to you guys , there are advantages though , you don't have to fuss around packing your bags before the wedding , you can tidy up after the wedding , enjoy opening presents etc . It might be a bit crap going back to work straight after the wedding though , I would definitely have a mini break at least straight after . We had two weeks in Europe and it was wonderful , it doesn't have to be a three week expedition to the north pole / safari/ tropical island/ cruise if that's not what you want . We could only have barely two weeks but I wouldn't have waited to have a longer break , I wanted that excitement of going off together straight away. I know plenty people who took a few days n went later on ( teachers or people who couldn't be away at the time etc) and they were happy with it .

galwaygirl2010 · by **galwaygirl2010** » Wed Aug 29, 2022 8:51 am

We went on ours 6 weeks after the wedding for better weather where we were going and would recommend it. We had a couple of days min-moon directly after the wedding and were wrecked for it. If we had gone directly on honeymoon after the wedding, we would not have enjoyed it as much. We were also able to get everything tidyed up after the wedding - handing in marriage cert, bringing gifts from hotel to home, lodging cash / cheques in the bank etc so didnt have to face into that after the honeymoon.

It also takes the edge of going back to work as you know you still have something to look forward to in a few weeks.

moobride · by **moobride** » Wed Aug 29, 2022 8:40 pm

we're planning on waiting, the wedding is the end of feb, and we're going to go the end april/start may. one of my BM is getting married the end of april. so want to be around for her hen etc, so waiting to go. means it's something to look forward too, going to have a mini-moon, and hoping to get march off work too, if not, only a few weeks of work, then holidays!! :o)ll

Sassypants · by **Sassypants** » Wed Aug 29, 2022 8:47 pm

We got married in June and went on honeymoon in September. We had lots of reasons for doing it (money being a huge one). We went on a little "mini-moon" to Lyrath in Kilkenny for 4 days after the wedding and that was fabulous, we needed to relax and just read our books (and >:o)

) before going back to work and to normal.

When our honeymoon finally came around we were so excited and had a brilliant time. I think if we'd gone straight after the wedding we would have been severely depressed come September/October.

So I think it's a great idea, but I do think the few days away after the wedding was brilliant too, really made us nice and relaxed.

Alsgal12 · by **Alsgal12** » Wed Aug 29, 2022 8:53 pm

We got married last Thursday and are not going away until November. And thank God we did wait because we would have flown striaght over to be greeted by Hurrican Isaac :eek

Agree with the other posters re taking a mini-moon straight after the wedding- we couldnt do this due to financial constraints and I went back to work yesterday. And it was horrific- I'm still exhausted after the wedding :o(

and back to reality with a bang! On the other hand if we had of gone on HM straight away we would have literally slept for the 1st week cos we were so knackered!

Biscuit Tin · by **Biscuit Tin** » Fri Aug 31, 2022 8:49 pm

I think it's a good idea to wait two months. We got married in May and went straight away. We were shattered & totally out of it for about a week I'd say. Went to west coast USA so with the time difference it was tough.
Also I found that I missed all the chat after the wedding, you know the post mortem as such! I remember sitting on the plane in heathrow & thinking I'd love to be sitting at home with my family having a cup of tea and talking about the day! Now dont get me wrong - was so excited to be heading off with my new husband for the holiday of a lifetime!

I'd definitely agree with the other girls tho that a mini moon would be essential for the two of ye after the big day!
Luckily we are getting to head away for a week at the end of september but if we didnt have that I'd be depressed & yearning for a holiday.

The two month break would give ye a chance to sort out the gifts & thank you cards so you'd have plenty to keep you busy after.
I remember us arriving back at our house and having to sort out cards and money and who gave what before DH had to literally leg it to the bank as we were leaving at 7am the next day.

Wow Alsgal12 what a stroke of luck ye are not caught up in the middle of Hurricane Isaac right now!!! That would have been awful.

Alsgal12 · by **Alsgal12** » Fri Aug 31, 2022 9:52 pm

Biscuit Tin wrote:

Wow Alsgal12 what a stroke of luck ye are not caught up in the middle of Hurricane Isaac right now!!! That would have been awful.

Its the only thought thats keeping me going cos right now November 24th seems like a loooooooooong way away!

StarLilly · by **StarLilly** » Tue Sep 04, 2022 10:40 pm

We're getting married in August and not going on honeymoon until January/February (depending on weather in other countries). We're getting married in Croatia so will be there after for about a week to spend time with my family and relax a bit, guess thats our mini-moon. this way we have something to look forward to, we'll miss some of Ireland's depressing winter, and it'll be alot easier financially. Go for it! :wv

Daisy Row · by **Daisy Row** » Fri Sep 07, 2022 11:26 am

I am definitely in favour of waiting to have the honeymoon. We will be married 9 months when we arrive in the Maldivess which maybe too much of a wait but I definitely agree with the theory of waiting a few months before going on honeymoon. There is a bit of a come down after the wedding so it is great to have something else to look forward to.

by **anniemac08** » Mon Sep 17, 2022 2:39 pm

Hi flash gordon, just gona share my experience with you of doin this and say it is an excellent idea we are just literally back from our delayed honeymoon, we got married at the end of January and decided that we were not going to go on honeymoon then for several reasons the first an main reason was that I had wanted to go to canada and to go there in Feb is not a great idea unless u love the cold??? and the second was we wanted to have the wedding paid for and not have the added stress of money paying for a really large honeymoon on top of the wedding, and lastly we had just built a new house and moved into it after the wedding and we had so much to do in it we didn't really have the time to go on honeymoon!
So for us this was a great idea and I can honestly say I am so happy we did it this way, it meant that we could enjoy moving into our new house, enjoy the run up to the wedding without the added stress of sorting out a holiday, packing for holidays and all the stress that comes with going on holidays

it also meant that we had time with our families after the wedding and we still had the honeymoon to look forward to as it would have been a long year if we had used up all our holiday leave in the first 2 months of the year, and then when we were away we were able to enjoy the honeymoon we were not wrecked tired for the first week.

Dont get me wrong we had a lovely 3 day break in Donegal at the lough eske castle which was georgous and really help to revive the batteries, so we had our mini moon and then a lovely / busy honeymoon,I'd say go for it :o)ll

by **londoncailin** » Mon Sep 17, 2022 4:51 pm

Flashgordon- same as what everyone else has said. I'm getting married August 2013 and we can't afford to take the honeymoon afterwards- we also will be flying to Ireland for the week before the wedding so we don't want to be taking all of our annual leave in one go. We plan on having a week or a few days for a mini moon then maybe 8 or 9 months later go on the proper holiday. I don't know anyone these days who has gone on honeymoon straight afterwards- everyone has gone on mini moon first. that way you get to plan 2 holidays :-)

nuttybride · by **nuttybride** » Mon Sep 17, 2022 9:58 pm

I live in London so will be going over about a week before the wedding (end of Oct 2013) sort stuff out, get married, then a week elsewhere in Ireland with family, then we are going to have our Honeymoon over Xmas/New year!

We just wouldnt have enough holidays with work to do it before then as we will be using up alot to fly back to ireland for planning

I think it gives you something else to look forward to after the comedown from the wedding day high!

by **MissMuppet** » Wed Sep 19, 2022 1:26 pm

We did this. We married in the month of May and went on HM in September. Best decision we made. We did a Mini Moon here in Ireland which was lovely.

I though by having the HM a few months after the wedding, it gave us something else to look forward to and get excited about. It also gave us time to save up some more spending money, etc.

Best of Luck O-O

by **flashgordon** » Tue Sep 25, 2022 1:02 pm

thanks everyone for the huge response wasnt expecting it and it has really put my mind at ease, sorry ive been very busy with work for the past month,so wasnt really on this sick in bed with flu today, thought i might post we are thinkin about dubai and maldives for honeymoon in november 2013 and three night break straight after the wedding..
regards flash

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