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Hi Cathy

I am not going to comment on what has happened in your life and relationship before now, All I want to say is take care of yourself, it might be worth talking to some sort of counsellor that the hospital could recomend



Cinders

Cathy,my friend's mam was diagnosed with this last year,had the operation to have her oesophagus removed and is now fully recovered and cancer-free.Have faith.
Its a rare type of cancer as you know but there is a support group in Ireland for it (they run lollipop day every year)
I wish you all the luck in the world.

Cathy, keep the spirits up and try to stay positive.

loosing my hair should be funny though

A friend of mine has just finished chemo and radium for a form of cancer, the treatment caused her to loose her hair, she got a wig made that was so good that if you didnt know she had lost her hair you wouldnt have known it was a wig,


it may sound so shallow, I am very lucky that it does not appear that the cancer has spread but I am really upset over the fertility thing.


I dont think wanting to have kids is shallow, Nothing wrong with admitting your fears over the fertillity issue

I am using all the suppports available, I do have a great network of family and friends who are brilliant

my friend said that if it wasnt for her family and us girls she doesnt know how she would have coped. Dont be afraid to let your family and friends know you need them

Cathy I'm very sorry to hear your news but stay strong and you will fight it. So many people get through this and you need to remain positive.

As far as the eggs are concerned I would go ahead and have them harvested (but that is just my opinion).

Please please don't take this the wrong way but to be honest I think you should remove yourself from these forums. You are going to be in a vunerable position while you are going through treatment and you might not get the support you need from a forum like this one. In fact it might actually bring you down reading stuff on this wedding site considering your relationship has ended. You might be stronger than I think but I know it would affect me if I was in the same situation.

Cathy, keep your spirits up pet. As you said, at least it hasn't spread. I don't envy you your position, but just know that you have a lot of support from posters on this forum. We all wish you the very best and hope that the chemo goes well for you, and you come back fighting fit. Take care pet, and chin up.

Sunbeam xx

Cathy, stay strong and stay positive. You will come out the other side of this.

Is the decision on harvesting your eggs about delaying the chemo? I don't know what to advise there, you'll just have to go with your heart.

Best of luck chick, you can fight this and you'll be back here in years to come planning your wedding to your Prince Charming.

Cathy, I just want to say I'm sorry to hear your news and that I'm thinking of you. Stay strong, and keep positive. Let your family and friends rally around you, and listen to the positive stories. You will come out the other end of this.
Take care xx
***sending you lots of get well hugs****

OK, a lot has happened. Some of you guys may know that I got back with my ex, we are getting married at the end of December, I am sorry if some of you guys disagree but in the end it is my life and I had a massive wake up call. I have been ofline for quite a while as I had chemo the week before last for a week intravenously and then was totally drained for the first few days afterwards, I actually had a really bad low blood sugar on Monday and had to be woken out of a semi coma but am fine, it was just the tiredness from the chemo, not being able recognise how ill I was - if you see the movie "A scanner darkly", that is how chemo looks like, I was also getting sick the whole time. On Thursday my brother got me a massage and reflexology, we ended up going about the wig afterwards and I am getting that on Tuesday...it costs a fortune but who cares.

I feel great at the moment - on Saturday we all went to the Guiness Hop store for lunch and a tour, I was able to have soup, strawberries and biscuits without getting sick once, that evening I was able to have cottage cheese and today I was able to have chicken soup without getting sick...you can not believe how great that makes me feel. Everyone expects me to be ill, I know that I was earlier in the week but I am a fighter. I am also very glad that I did not get married in June, I had the begining of my cancer at that stage and I was starting to feel ill, if I had married then I might have been pregnant when I had this and deciding what to do, as it was I had to wait for a pregnancy test for one test around the time I was diagnosed, it was the first time in my life that I was happy that I was not pregnant. My fertility is being protected, I am on a low dose of the drug that causes the infertility and am also on another drug to protect it.

Please respect me over my decison to get married - I had a huge wake up call, all of us did. My fiancee is being very supportive (he saved my life on Monday), he has the heating in the house on warm all the time and is rining me every hour that I am at home and taking as much time off as possible. I am going to be bold though and try for a kid by the end of next year, I ran it by my best friend who is a doctor and he did not say anything against it though the specialist expects me to wait 2 years cancer free, that would mean that I would be 35 which is too old for me with the diabetes as well, plus, I really, really want a baby, me, nobody else.

Thanks for all those who supported me.

Best of luck Cathy

You are a fighter and an inspiration to all who suffer with this illness.

I only think you should do whats right for you and your future and if thats with h2b then i think thats great! Maybe all you both needed was a little reality check.

Congrats on tying the knot. Christmas will be a wonderful time for a wedding and it sounds like nothing can keep a good woman down

Forget what other people think its what YOU think that matters

Whats right for you won't pass you by (on all accounts including babies)

best of luck

Best of luck Cathy...you really are a strong person, I don't know if I would be so strong. Saying a prayer for you...

Best of luck Cathy - I think Christmastime is a lovely time to get married -let us know if we can be of any help with planning for your wedding.