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I was having coffee with a friend the other day and she told me she was considering leaving her boyfiend because he was watching porn on the net behind her back. Apparently he had promised her he would never do such a thing because she finfs it so crude. So girls it got me to thinking, do you allow your fella to watch porn and would you leave him if he was doing it beind your back?

No he doesn't and no I wouldn't leave him if he did - within reasonable limits of course.
If he was more interested in porn than he was in me, then there would be things to sort out...

Ah now I dont think she meant it like that.
Id say twas a figure of speech, it isnt like we are all standing over our partners with whips and....stuff.
I dont allow/forbid my h2b to do anything. If I try to tell him not to do something he does the opposite. Just to prove a point.

I think it's degrading to both sexes and pretty disgusting to look at personally and don't get a thrill from it. Although my body does react to it, my brain tells me otherwise, so it's conflicting feelings which I don't particularly find to be a turn on.

My hubbie doesn't bother with it really. I mean, of course, if he sees it, it will stimulate him sexually. It's so in your face and men do like that, but I know that he doesn't look at it on the computer or anything. I told him if he does that I definitely don't want to know about it, so he can delete histories. But I'm always around when he does go on the computer as it's in our living area, and he never does.

Before he met me, he used to every now and again but he said he used feel kinda pathetic sitting behind the pc doing that. It's kind of a lonely thing for guys to do when they are single I think. And if they are in a relationship, well, I suppose every now and again is grand. Moderation rules. I just think that some guys have an unhealthy dependency on it. I think that if a guy rejects his partner for porn, then there are some issues which should be worked through. Otherwise, whatever both people are comfortable with. And I know that can widely vary, and that's where the trouble begins. Luckily my hubbie and I think the same way about it.

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you made some excellent points (your not a journalist?). In moderation is grand although i find the whole thing a bit sleezy and your right your brain says one thing and your body says another. My partner insists that a small amount is natural but at the same time its also a bit sad. My friend is seriously going mad, her fella is great but she states he may of well had a one night stand. All he was doing was looking but sure shes one of those ladies who wont budge once her mind is mad up. I have heard worse stories from other colleagues at work and sure their still with their partners.

dont think it would bother me at all tbh, the women and men are paid to do it. simple as that.

Porn doesn't bother me in the slightest. To be honest I think your friend is totally over reacting, how can porn be compared to cheating, I don't get it.
Although I did go to college with a girl who was very insecure and would start world war three with her boyfriend if she found even FHM in his room...bizarre.

nothing wrong with it, its human nature, sure h2b mate gives him some dvds and we watch them together sometimes. if theres a naked scene on tv are you going to stop your hubby looking at her boobs?

funny you should mention that- when i was round her house one evening she had her hands over his eyes when a pair of boobs came on the scene! And was giving out to him like mad...lol. Shes gas to say the least and yes needs to relax a bit.

Are you serious?? Thats a tiny bit mental..... Is he blindfolded on the beech when on holidays?

she must wear polo necks and trousers all year round...

i probably sound like a sex crazed loonie but i actually like watching a bit of porn with my fella once it's nothing too heavy.

he also has a few magazines and it doesn't bother me cos he has a much higher sex drive than me and i don't feel so under pressue to perform if he can sort himself out.

he's not in my face about it but not totally secretive either, i think it's ok once a bit of discretion is used. i can hardly talk when i have my trusty vibrator!!!